How to Be Kind When You're Hurting

Kindness is hard on normal life, and it's even harder to do when you are going through the valley. Kindness requires you to look outside your misery and troubles and put "a good thing" in someone's life.

But how can you give away a good thing when everything in you is hollow and painful? How can you spare a moment of kindness when you yourself are struggling to catch your breath?

Our natural tendency as a human being is to communicate our heart as best as we can. That is why when we are hurting everything that ooze out from us is crass and sarcastic. We simply want to communicate our hurt. Garbage in, garbage out.

The thing is we tend to hurt people when we are hurting, because we want them to feel our pain!

For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are--yet he did not sin. (Hebrew 4:5)

If there'a anyone who can be deemed as a "master of the valleys", Jesus would definitely fit the category. He has been betrayed, left alone, cursed, misunderstood and well, crucified. Yet, He is the kindest human being who have ever walked on earth. 

It's not about HOW we communicate our hurt, it's WHO we communicate our hurt TO. We tried to fix our "means of communication" and our "conflict resolution" technique and yet we still end up hurting (ourselves and each other).

One of those days Jesus went to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God (Luke 6:12)

Apparently Jesus also have "one of those days"! One of those days, when everything goes wrong. One of those days when people hurt you, or when sorrows suffocates you. 

He choose to spend the night praying to God.

God is the only one that can take our hurt, our pain and our tears. He is big enough, strong enough and gentle enough to bear our burden and suffering.... Cast your worries to Him because He cares (1 Peter 5:7)

The only way you can be kind to people is when you give all your hurt to God

When you give all your hurt to God, He will fill you with His goodness and kindness... and that my friend is the only way we can be kind to other human being.